I left my first known narcopath while pregnant with our second child after he found out we were inconveniently having a daughter and all satans hell fire š„ took off fanned by his ā honey monsterā neckless huge mom ..
I have a doctorate FFS but in my defense have only had access to quora and personality āordersā such as Sophia Bell and a couple of other guys (House and Torbay who bring a kick in guts of laughter to replace my existential pain and Morningstar to soothe the forming bruise
She was with him a lot longer and a lot younger. Itās 7 years since she left him, since then she has married I presume š¤ a normie and had kidsā¦but she had come to realise suppressing the trauma of that relationship ( maybe maternity leave gave her time to process?) has not been successful and she had just sought out trauma counselling re ā itā
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but on the upside my extraction to the second one and via the pain of breaking trauma bonds I became an absolute legend ( not my words) ultra runner ā¦ running 100+ miles while in the throws of narcopath addiction led me to beat an entire field of men and womenā¦and set a course record for a tough 24 hr ā¦ bearing in mind ..
so I think me reaching out was timely and hopefully catharticā¦ any other time it could have fallen flat cause think a lot of people suppress these narcoshiteburgersā¦ luckily for both of us it was timelyā¦ itās all in the timing ā¦.
love ā¤ļø to all Bee š and especially to those who ā knowā you know xxx
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe ā¦
our last conversation we hadā¦ i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
I am very embarrassed to admit this is my third time suffering acute detoxing from trauma bonds ā¦ my evil triad !!ā¦but bearing in mind I was pregnant with a toddler which is suffocating enoughā¦.first time round and never knew it would end !ā¦ but obviously never secured my battlements and to be fair the last one had a disability which somewhat mirrors NPD .. fuck the last three years I have been in a hall of mirrors !
Just did it over Facebook ( had to create an account) as got rid of old one . I missed her reply for almost a week. I am two weeks out only a week NC . She more than validated my experience .
this is a girl that could not complete the 1.5 M cross country course at school.. there is power in pain ā¦ you donāt have to wait for it to pass it can be transferred into doing energy ā¦ but obviously beneath well worn muscles left my inner loving child fragmented š£
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I long to join the properly recovered as they say in AA and 12 steps generally donāt think I have another recovery ā¤ļøāš©¹ in me.
I am sitting in that really uncomfortable place unable to breathe, sleep or eat desperate for abusive X validation especially as it is not my first rodeo and so I had that āsomewhatāuniquely reactive aggressive exit so guilt and shame is in the mix the need to apologise to my narcopath abusive bully for smacking him ( ā like a spasticā in the chops infront of all his now flying gorillas !!!š¦ā¦ anyhow I digress ā¦
I wish I had got trauma counselling while the kids were smallā¦ so can emphasis this to the younger xā¦ as in between remaining mostly single both subsequent relationships have been with snakes in clothing ( no offence to serpents those prophets of knowledge) ..
I found out I have cancerāI have not told my family. We canāt afford the treatment anyway. Should I just say nothing and let nature take its course?
we already had a son and he needed two to recreate his weird sociopathic familyā¦
